[100 Things] The Queer Bundle #1
May. 10th, 2012 12:50 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
eumeliaI just worked though my feelings regarding President Obama's statement of marriage equality in the United States by creating fanfic with another non-American fan.
I'm gay and she's straight and we were both... unimpressed. Probably for different reasons. Her country has had marriage equality for over a decade. I live in a country that has no civil marriage for anyone.
Look at that quote.
This is what President Obama said (Via The Atlantic Wire):
Now look at me.
President Obama has laid out in those few sentences what his opinion about marriage equality is about.
An opinion, that should have no bearing on the law.
No one's opinion should have any bearing on the nature of people's relationship.
Beyond that, he's making it a personal issue, as opposed to a social issue, reiterating the false dichotomy that what matters, is what matters to the people he knows and that the rest will have to find different solution.
When he says - "when I think about members of my own staff who are in incredibly committed monogamous relationships, same-sex relationships, who are raising kids together," - he is giving us the baseline of decent gay people, of worthy gay people. Long term and monogamous who are productive members of society by being reproductive members of society.
And if they're not reproducing, they're out there killing people in far away lands - "when I think about those soldiers or airmen or marines or sailors who are out there fighting on my behalf and yet feel constrained, even now that Don't Ask Don't Tell is gone," - because now gay people can go out into the world, openly, and kill anyone in the name of Freedom, Liberty and Democracy.
That was sarcasm.
Don't Ask, Don't Tell was a cruel decree, and its repeal is a good thing (This is not sarcasm).
That doesn't make the draft a tool of progress for gay people. Being able to be visible is a necessary thing, and I don't begrudge that. However, the fact that the fight was focused on this repeal as though it would change the culture of homophobia inherent to an institution based on hierarchy and conservative notions of masculinity, kind of boggles me.
Taking the above into account and once again, marriage equality is placed out there as a prize the second class citizens of America need to aspire to.
I find that notion absolutely abhorrent.
People sexuality, their relationship style, their loyalty to the government and reproductive choices should not be a standard for their humanity.
And their humanity should not be equated with a state contract.
"I’ve just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same sex couples should be able to get married"
The President's personal opinion has no bearing, whatsoever, on the inherent humanity of gay people, who may or may not be in a relationship.
The fact that his personal opinion is favourable, but he states at the same time that it should be remain a state issue is extremely telling.
Ironically, Obama has been the best President with regards to Trans issues, which is saying something, considering the majority of marriage equality advocates shuffle trans people under the bus when it comes to pushing an agenda. I see it in the States and I see it in my own locale.
And that's why I've been saying gay people throughout.
There is no discussion of the humanity and dignity of bisexual people, or men and women and other genders I couldn't name who are in a relationship that may or may not be romantic. Or who aren't in a relationship at all. There is no discussion of kinship without marriage. There is no discussion of healthcare plans without a spouse. Why is there a moral imperative when it comes to children?
Bottom line.
Obama expressed his personal opinion that marriage is something gay people have to earn. By fighting, tooth and nail.
This is progress?
I'm gay and she's straight and we were both... unimpressed. Probably for different reasons. Her country has had marriage equality for over a decade. I live in a country that has no civil marriage for anyone.
Look at that quote.
This is what President Obama said (Via The Atlantic Wire):
"I have to tell you that over the course of several years as I have talked to friends and family and neighbors when I think about members of my own staff who are in incredibly committed monogamous relationships, same-sex relationships, who are raising kids together, when I think about those soldiers or airmen or marines or sailors who are out there fighting on my behalf and yet feel constrained, even now that Don't Ask Don't Tell is gone, because they are not able to commit themselves in a marriage, at a certain point I’ve just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same sex couples should be able to get married,”
Now look at me.
President Obama has laid out in those few sentences what his opinion about marriage equality is about.
An opinion, that should have no bearing on the law.
No one's opinion should have any bearing on the nature of people's relationship.
Beyond that, he's making it a personal issue, as opposed to a social issue, reiterating the false dichotomy that what matters, is what matters to the people he knows and that the rest will have to find different solution.
When he says - "when I think about members of my own staff who are in incredibly committed monogamous relationships, same-sex relationships, who are raising kids together," - he is giving us the baseline of decent gay people, of worthy gay people. Long term and monogamous who are productive members of society by being reproductive members of society.
And if they're not reproducing, they're out there killing people in far away lands - "when I think about those soldiers or airmen or marines or sailors who are out there fighting on my behalf and yet feel constrained, even now that Don't Ask Don't Tell is gone," - because now gay people can go out into the world, openly, and kill anyone in the name of Freedom, Liberty and Democracy.
That was sarcasm.
Don't Ask, Don't Tell was a cruel decree, and its repeal is a good thing (This is not sarcasm).
That doesn't make the draft a tool of progress for gay people. Being able to be visible is a necessary thing, and I don't begrudge that. However, the fact that the fight was focused on this repeal as though it would change the culture of homophobia inherent to an institution based on hierarchy and conservative notions of masculinity, kind of boggles me.
Taking the above into account and once again, marriage equality is placed out there as a prize the second class citizens of America need to aspire to.
I find that notion absolutely abhorrent.
People sexuality, their relationship style, their loyalty to the government and reproductive choices should not be a standard for their humanity.
And their humanity should not be equated with a state contract.
"I’ve just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same sex couples should be able to get married"
The President's personal opinion has no bearing, whatsoever, on the inherent humanity of gay people, who may or may not be in a relationship.
The fact that his personal opinion is favourable, but he states at the same time that it should be remain a state issue is extremely telling.
Ironically, Obama has been the best President with regards to Trans issues, which is saying something, considering the majority of marriage equality advocates shuffle trans people under the bus when it comes to pushing an agenda. I see it in the States and I see it in my own locale.
And that's why I've been saying gay people throughout.
There is no discussion of the humanity and dignity of bisexual people, or men and women and other genders I couldn't name who are in a relationship that may or may not be romantic. Or who aren't in a relationship at all. There is no discussion of kinship without marriage. There is no discussion of healthcare plans without a spouse. Why is there a moral imperative when it comes to children?
Bottom line.
Obama expressed his personal opinion that marriage is something gay people have to earn. By fighting, tooth and nail.
This is progress?
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Date: 2012-05-10 01:50 pm (UTC)The night before last, Jon Stewart mocked Obama on TV for being too much of a wimp to admit that he supports gay marriage. (He had, much earlier in his political career, come out in favor of it.) We all assumed that middle-of-the-road, Christian Obama was going to equivocate again.
Let's say this. For twenty minutes, I'm going to feel happy that a person in power has affirmed several principles that everyone should affirm all the time anyway. That m/m and f/f relationships are worth celebrating! That people have the right to choose with whom to build a family! I think those are good things. It's OK to feel happy when there's a step in the right direction. Maybe marriage isn't the direction every GLBT activists thinks the movement for human liberation should go--but whatever, it's something.
And now, I have to get ready to go to the dentist. See, since I finally made that first appointment, I have regular checkups and cleanings every six months, and it's time for another one today.
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Date: 2012-05-10 11:12 pm (UTC)It is something, but that doesn't make it the only thing.
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Date: 2012-05-11 04:00 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-05-11 06:42 am (UTC)