Things that make me go *RAWR*

[eumelia]

Things I grew tired of hearing a long time ago:

#01 "You're aggressive" - You make me want to rip out your rib cage and wear it like a hat (h/t Spike/Willian the Bloody terrible poet, he was a brilliant word-smith...).

#02 "You're provocative" - I make you uncomfortable, not my problem!

#03 Rape apologia - Even if a woman (or man) is walking around, naked, with a placard stating in neon "Will Fuck Anyone!", no one has the right to violate his/her/hir body. Ever. Rape is a crime, stop punishing and blaming the victims.

#04 The term "self-hating Jew" - the next time I hear this term I'm calling on that person and saying they are an "Antisemitic shit-bag". Jewish self-hatred assumes some kind of essential Jewish trait that us (yeah, I'm one of those people) self-haters reject because we're just that disgusting.
Antisemitic Shit-Baggery!

#05 "You've lost weight, you look great!" - I know I've lost weight. I know I comply with the fashionable female body type. I'd appreciate it if no one comments about my body, it's fucking irritating, I'm not livestock to be commented upon, my my rump, ribs and tits are not in public for your consumption! Unless you've been given permission to do so (you know who you are), do stop!

#06 "You look much better now that your hair in longer. The shaved head didn't look good on you".
DIAF.

#07 "Is this another feminist thing?" - Yeah it is, and you're gonna listen to me annoy the fucking hell out of you!

#08 "You're so sensitive" - Yeah, this is me crying over your dead body.

#09 "You're so loud, why do you have to shout everything. It's all about how you say things you know" - Yeah I do know, I also know a big STFU when I see one. Stop trying to control my fucking tone!

And #10 "Why do you care so much?" - because the world is an ugly, cynical and corrupted blemish in this universe. We have to live on it, it may as well be with a modicum of empathy and dignity.

Those are the Top 10 things this week that made me go *rawr*, *arrgh*, swear under my breath, glare, lose my temper and want to throw things at people's faces.

I cannot wait for the semester to start (which it does this Sunday).

Tell me friends, readers and maybe lurkers, what grinds your gears?

Comments

[esizzle.livejournal.com]

#5 and #8 i get sooooo annoyed !!

[eumelia.livejournal.com]

Over their dead bodies, mate.

[lishablog.livejournal.com]

* Drivers who don't look both ways before crossing a one way intersection -- they don't consider that pedestrians, bicyclists, razor scooters, wheelchair users, and others may possibly be coming from the other direction (I almost got hit by an idiot today, can you tell?)

* "We don't do it that way in Israel" -- bull fucking shit. If you're company sucks than you act like an asshole whatever country you are in. But if you want to do business with the world, write good software, build something that isn't crap, then you need to follow the same laws of 'Netiquette', project management, and physics as everyone else.

* "You can't change anything here" -- fuck that shit. If only politicians can do stuff in this country and if only rich, power hungry assholes are politicians than we a) don't have a democracy and b) might as well just become a province of Jordan or Iran or something. Maybe Saudi Arabia. The thing called 'the political process' is a bitch in every country. Don't let your fear of it be an excuse for your apathy.

* "Kids are just mean like that, but they grow out of it" (when speaking of bullying problems at the park or, last year, at school) -- No. That's another cop-out. Raise your children, people! Teach them manners and empathy, discipline and care. You don't have to be mean and horrible or take away from their joy of childhood to do that. And it really doesn't help that someday they will grow up and go to the army where you think that they will finally be taught discipline and all that other inconvenient stuff. If you didn't teach them to be human BEFORE they get to the army, they aren't going to learn how to be human once they are there.

* "You *USED* to be such a Zionist!" -- I still am a fucking Zionist, you idiot. I believe that we should have a nation that other people can look up to, a nation that lives up to its ideals - yes, I mean those ideals that we manage to hash out through a combination of myth, legend and wishful thinking. The stories about ourselves may not always be true, but they point to what we WISH we were. We can be better, both as individuals and as a nation, by being honest about where those stories are not true while simultaneously internalizing the best of the ideas of what we wish we were and then STRIVE for that. You know that old saying, "Be the change you want to see in the world"? I still believe in that. ... Oh, yeah, and Hebrew really could use some good words for ice skating moves. Using foreign words for everything is such a bloody cop out, too, and it really irks me.

(And, and, and... being a Zionist does NOT mean being anti- any one else's country, land or peoplehood. It means wanting to build MY country, and sometimes that means helping my neighbors build THEIR country. There is no contradiction in that.)

[eumelia.livejournal.com]

Wow, that's a lot...

Glad you felt you could vent.

[lishablog.livejournal.com]

*phew* Thanks for giving me the venue. I really needed it today. :)

[ephraim-oakes.livejournal.com]

re: #4

of touring israel with his band, my friend Dan said "walking around, i was sure that half the people who saw me hated me and the other half thought i hated myself"

and i thought to myself: funny, that's how i feel pretty much everywhere as a fat, visibly queer person.

[eumelia.livejournal.com]

Did you read my previous post?

Yeah, the self-hatred is definitely something queers are good at.

[svollga.livejournal.com]

#2, #3 and #10 from your list :)

# "That's the way society works, it will never change, it's traditional" - WTF, people, are you still forbid women to vote? Society changed before, I know what I am talking about, I am a *sociologist*!

# "Minority is way too loud, majority still does whatever it wants, better calm down and live your life" - especially from someone who *is* minority.

# "We Russians will never become better, that's what we are, we are not West/Europe/America" - well, we are not, we are better!

# "Not in your lifetime" - so what? My children will live better then me, is it not the *point*?

# Useless and unfair bashing. This goes for lesser causes: RTD and Gwen among them.

[eumelia.livejournal.com]

Word, on all that!

[tinyrevolution.livejournal.com]

Cosigned on all of it.

I'd list things that grind my gears maybe later, if I feel like thinking abt htem...

[eumelia.livejournal.com]

Thanks!

I'm sorry for saying this when you're already annoyed...

[http://users.livejournal.com/_lux_aeterna_1/]

but you are one of the most annoying people that I still consider friends.

#5 and #6 are obvious examples- the person was clearly trying to compliment you, in a socially acceptable way. If you chose not to take it as the compliment it is but rather as an insult and an invasion of your privacy, well, that lays clearly within the field of Your Problem.

While I'm already taking the risk of annoying you, leaving some of your longer posts behind a cut might benefit some of your friends (or, well,readers).

Re: I'm sorry for saying this when you're already annoyed...

[eumelia.livejournal.com]

Backhanded compliments are not what I consider appropriate.

Comments on my weight and hair or any part of my body are not acceptable, why? Because I say so and I have my reasons that do not need to be divulged at this time.
There are very few people with whom I can speak about those two issues and be comfortable about it.
It is my problem because I'm forced to deal with it and others telling me, duh, that I'm being over sensitive... it's #8 on the list.

This was a short post, but duly noted on the length thing, I'll try to remember.

Re: I'm sorry for saying this when you're already annoyed...

[mao4269.livejournal.com]

1) Telling someone that ze "looks good" when ze conforms to gender norms (by being a certain weight or having a certain hair style), especially with the explicit addition that *not* conforming to those norms "looked bad" isn't eumelia's problem, it's the problem of anyone who thinks that having the choices people make about their bodies dictated by what's between their legs is royally screwed up.

2) Feeling the need to tell someone who's pointing out #1 that she's being "annoying" suggests that your problem isn't really with eumelia but at the very least with anyone who's experienced items 01, 02, and/or 07 from her post.

eumelia, sorry if I'm overstepping bounds with this comment.

Re: I'm sorry for saying this when you're already annoyed...

[eumelia.livejournal.com]

No worries, I made my own comment, any body can reply, it's a (semi)public forum.

[cbr-paul.livejournal.com]

Did you ever watch "Spaced"? There was a great back-handed compliment on #5 in one episode:

"Ooh, you look really good dear. Most people lose weight when they go on holiday."

[eumelia.livejournal.com]

I have not, but those kind of back-handed compliments are very common in comedies (and dramas and IRL).