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Eumelia ([personal profile] eumelia) wrote2009-10-12 09:38 pm

Things that make me go *RAWR*

Things I grew tired of hearing a long time ago:

#01 "You're aggressive" - You make me want to rip out your rib cage and wear it like a hat (h/t Spike/Willian the Bloody terrible poet, he was a brilliant word-smith...).

#02 "You're provocative" - I make you uncomfortable, not my problem!

#03 Rape apologia - Even if a woman (or man) is walking around, naked, with a placard stating in neon "Will Fuck Anyone!", no one has the right to violate his/her/hir body. Ever. Rape is a crime, stop punishing and blaming the victims.

#04 The term "self-hating Jew" - the next time I hear this term I'm calling on that person and saying they are an "Antisemitic shit-bag". Jewish self-hatred assumes some kind of essential Jewish trait that us (yeah, I'm one of those people) self-haters reject because we're just that disgusting.
Antisemitic Shit-Baggery!

#05 "You've lost weight, you look great!" - I know I've lost weight. I know I comply with the fashionable female body type. I'd appreciate it if no one comments about my body, it's fucking irritating, I'm not livestock to be commented upon, my my rump, ribs and tits are not in public for your consumption! Unless you've been given permission to do so (you know who you are), do stop!

#06 "You look much better now that your hair in longer. The shaved head didn't look good on you".
DIAF.

#07 "Is this another feminist thing?" - Yeah it is, and you're gonna listen to me annoy the fucking hell out of you!

#08 "You're so sensitive" - Yeah, this is me crying over your dead body.

#09 "You're so loud, why do you have to shout everything. It's all about how you say things you know" - Yeah I do know, I also know a big STFU when I see one. Stop trying to control my fucking tone!

And #10 "Why do you care so much?" - because the world is an ugly, cynical and corrupted blemish in this universe. We have to live on it, it may as well be with a modicum of empathy and dignity.

Those are the Top 10 things this week that made me go *rawr*, *arrgh*, swear under my breath, glare, lose my temper and want to throw things at people's faces.

I cannot wait for the semester to start (which it does this Sunday).

Tell me friends, readers and maybe lurkers, what grinds your gears?

I'm sorry for saying this when you're already annoyed...

[identity profile] http://users.livejournal.com/_lux_aeterna_1/ 2009-10-13 12:05 am (UTC)(link)
but you are one of the most annoying people that I still consider friends.

#5 and #6 are obvious examples- the person was clearly trying to compliment you, in a socially acceptable way. If you chose not to take it as the compliment it is but rather as an insult and an invasion of your privacy, well, that lays clearly within the field of Your Problem.

While I'm already taking the risk of annoying you, leaving some of your longer posts behind a cut might benefit some of your friends (or, well,readers).

Re: I'm sorry for saying this when you're already annoyed...

[identity profile] eumelia.livejournal.com 2009-10-13 12:33 am (UTC)(link)
Backhanded compliments are not what I consider appropriate.

Comments on my weight and hair or any part of my body are not acceptable, why? Because I say so and I have my reasons that do not need to be divulged at this time.
There are very few people with whom I can speak about those two issues and be comfortable about it.
It is my problem because I'm forced to deal with it and others telling me, duh, that I'm being over sensitive... it's #8 on the list.

This was a short post, but duly noted on the length thing, I'll try to remember.

Re: I'm sorry for saying this when you're already annoyed...

[identity profile] mao4269.livejournal.com 2009-10-13 03:48 am (UTC)(link)
1) Telling someone that ze "looks good" when ze conforms to gender norms (by being a certain weight or having a certain hair style), especially with the explicit addition that *not* conforming to those norms "looked bad" isn't [livejournal.com profile] eumelia's problem, it's the problem of anyone who thinks that having the choices people make about their bodies dictated by what's between their legs is royally screwed up.

2) Feeling the need to tell someone who's pointing out #1 that she's being "annoying" suggests that your problem isn't really with [livejournal.com profile] eumelia but at the very least with anyone who's experienced items 01, 02, and/or 07 from her post.

[livejournal.com profile] eumelia, sorry if I'm overstepping bounds with this comment.

Re: I'm sorry for saying this when you're already annoyed...

[identity profile] eumelia.livejournal.com 2009-10-13 07:33 am (UTC)(link)
No worries, I made my own comment, any body can reply, it's a (semi)public forum.