Focusing on Kirk is what irked me, and continuing to want him to be the queer one bothers me because it's playing into the negative stereotypes of hypersexual bisexuals and queer men without strong father figures.

Personally, if they're going to make someone gay, I'd prefer it be a very average relationship or an unremarkable fling like Kirk had every week, and have it be no more relevant to the plot than any of the other original series relationships, of which there was only the unrequited one between Spock and Chapel.